When my son turned 13 his personality changed, he started spending more time in his room and less and less time with my wife and I. We knew something was up so while he was at friend’s house we went in his bedroom to look for anything that may give us a clue. What we found shocked us, we found CDs of music that was very destructive. All the songs had an angry tone and one song even sang about a girl being abused and a person committing suicide.  When we asked our son why he was listening to this kind of music his response was “I don’t listen to the word only the music”. We shared with him that whether he was listening to the words or not by listening to this type of music he will begin to think the same way as the artist. If he continued to put their words in his mind, he would adopt their angry beliefs. We confiscated the CDs and asked him not to listen to that music but to find positive music that focuses on doing good and helping others. He heeded our request and found some positive music with the same beat and type of music and his behavior became more positive.

Earl Nightingale – We become what we think about. You can listen to a short clip here

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Five ways you can help your teen make their teen age years more fun, and less stressful.

1. Give your child permission to tell you how they are feeling and let them know you are there along side them to support them.
2. When they make mistakes and you have to discipline them, make time to come and explain why you disciplined him and your are not mad at him but what was done.
3. Invite him to have friends over to your home, this will give you two advantages to help him. One you will get to know his friends, and two you will have an impact on the friends he brings home.
4. Invite your child’s friends over for dinner or a birthday party, this will create communication pathways for all parents to support all of the kids together.
5. Find activities that all the parents and kids can do like bowling or miniature golf. This will help you build solid friendships.

By taking action on these 5 tips you can create a network of support for both parents and teens.

Have a blessed week!