December 17, 2022
by Mike Stewart
December 17, 2022
November 21, 2021
by Mike Stewart
Visualization is a powerful tool to create a great life because it allows you to see below the surface and trace the object all the way back to the thought the inventor had that initiated the creation of the object.
In this week’s lesson, our exercise was to reverse engineer a battleship. To use visualization to disassemble this massive ship in our minds, to follow it back to its origination.
28. In the last Part you created a mental image, you brought it from the invisible
into the visible; this week I want you to take an object and follow it back to its
origination, see of what it really consists. If you do this you will develop
imagination, insight, perception, and sagacity. These come not by the superficial
observation of the multitude, but by a keen analytical observation that sees below
The visualization exercise was a struggle for me at first because I really had no interest in battleships and that lead me to ask the question “why a battleship”, but after doing the exercise each day this week I experienced something truly amazing on the 3rd day I was able to visualize the conversations between the government leaders depressing their belief of why it was important to build a new battleship, how it will protect thousands of people. On the other side, I could hear the opposition expressing their belief of how that money could be better spent to help feed people around the world or provide clean water for villages that did not have access to clean water.
What became evident to me that by practicing the art of visualization I was training myself to not accept what I see on the surface, whether we are talking about an object, a person, or a situation but to be curious about the root cause that is creating the effect that I see.
As I began to apply this principle to my daily interactions with people it became clear that this is a skill I want to master, not only to bring more value to my own life but to share it with my clients, friends, and family.
If each human being on the planet were to practice this skill we would be less likely to judge one another, demean one another but instead, we would understand, empathize, be more inclined to lend a hand, or give more freely to help one another live life more powerfully.
Make the decision today to take 100% responsibility for your life good and bad and when you encounter a struggle reverse engineer it through visualization, follow it back to the thought that birthed it, make time to process the feelings instead of running from them.
Summer McStravick once said, “The only way out is through”. So many times we don’t take the time to process our own thoughts, feelings, and actions but instead, want to blame others for our problem or make it go away with alcohol or drugs only to find ourselves faced with the same problem when those bandaids falloff. You can find more information about Summer on her website. https://flowdreaming.com/about-summer/
I experienced this recently in my own life during a class I was taking through my church. I realized I had held a grudge against my Mom for not allowing me to have a relationship with my father because they divorced before I was born and all I knew of my dad was that he was a bum. Every time I asked a family member what my dad was like that was their response, he was a bum he didn’t want to work and when my mom became pregnant with me he left because he did not want to deal with another child and was stressed out enough with my two older sisters.
By processing my feelings of being angry at my mom I realized she was only trying to protect me from being hurt like she was hurt. When I came to that conclusion I was able to forgive my mom which gave me peace. The experience transformed my feelings for my mom from anger to love.
If you are struggling with a problem take time to slow down, listen to your body, observe the thoughts you think on a daily basis and choose to take control of those thoughts. It will be hard at first but I believe in you, I know there is a power within you that can free you from your pain if you will only learn how to tap into it. Make it a point to include visualization in your morning routine. Visualize the life you want to live, the difference you want to make in the world.
Please seek a trusted friend or a coach to help you process your thoughts, feelings, and actions that surround you and may at times be so overwhelming that you can’t even get out of bed.
I would be happy to listen and see if I can help you or guide you to a trusted resource. You don’t have to go through this alone.
Schedule a free 30-minute call with me where I will share some valuable tools that will empower you to gain a new perspective of what is possible. You can also use my contact page at
October 24, 2021
by Mike Stewart
By letting your light shine you can defeat fear and render it powerless over your thoughts feelings and actions.
Many people today are overcome with fear and anxiety regarding our future as a nation, a society, and in our local cities.
Where is this fear coming from? What is feeding this monster that is spreading throughout our neighborhoods and into our homes?
When Covid-19 reared its ugly head in March of 2020 I was very careful to follow the CDC guidelines and our county’s recommendations to stop the spread of the virus. I watched the news and stayed up to date on the latest findings, treatments, and safety precautions but as I continued to watch the news I realized everything I was hearing was negative, there was not one story of a person that was treated for Covid-19 and recovered reported on by my local news and I found myself sinking into a depression.
I decided to change the stations and combed the internet to find a story of hope but it was the same message over and over again we will not survive unless something drastically changes and I became afraid that myself, my family, and everyone I loved were going to die from this virus.
Reading and meditation on the week 3 Master Key Lesson this week was so helpful at empowering me to take control of my thoughts and replace fear with spreading love and light to my friends and neighbors.
Taking on this practice saved me from sinking into hopelessness and allowed me to focus on ways to help my friends and neighbors in any way I could. I offered to shop for elderly people in my neighborhood group, make phone calls to those who need to know someone cared, and by shifting my focus to being of service and eliminating fear I became inspired to volunteer at our church to hand out food and people were so grateful.
The greatest lesson I learned from all of my activities was that I had the power to stop fear in its tracks by letting my light shine and giving the gift of hope to others.
The following words opened my eyes to a new way of overcoming fear.
- Non-resistant thought expands the Solar Plexus; resistant thought contracts it. Pleasant
thought expands it; unpleasant thought contracts it. Thoughts of courage, power, confidence and
hope all produce a corresponding state, but the one arch enemy of the Solar Plexus which must
be absolutely destroyed before there is any possibility of letting any light shine is fear. This enemy
must be completely destroyed; he must be eliminated; he must be expelled forever; he is the cloud
which hides the sun; which causes a perpetual gloom.
- It is this personal devil which makes men fear the past, the present and the future; fear
themselves, their friends and their enemies; fear everything and everybody. When fear is
effectually and completely destroyed, your light willshine, the clouds will disperse and you will have
found the source of power, energy and life.
- When you find that you are really one with the Infinite power, and when you can
consciously realize this power by a practical demonstration of your ability to overcome any
adverse condition by the power of your thought, you will have nothing to fear; fear will have
been destroyed and you will have come into possession of your birthright.
Do you need more hope this week?
Do you need to know someone cares, that we are going to make it through?
I urge you to not allow yourself to dwell in the midst of fear but instead reach out to myself or someone you trust and allow them to lend you hope when you are weak and love when you feel unloved. it is the best medicine we can give to one another and as we do this we will overcome any obstacle we face because we have one another to lean on.
I am available to help. Please feel free to reach out to me through email email@example.com or my calendar Meet with Mike
October 21, 2021
by Mike Stewart
Week 2 of the Master Key Experience is all about learning of gaining control of your thoughts. That statement may have different meanings based on each person’s past experiences.
I used to live my life in such a way that I was oblivious of how my mind worked and I believed that examining my thoughts was something I had to go to the doctor to learn. I felt so trapped in a world of constantly trying to fit in and win the approval of the people at my church and at the office.
I can remember going to a company Christmas party or a birthday party where I would compare myself to other guys and I always gave myself a low score and felt so inadequate because I believed everyone had it all together except me.
Week 2 of the course is always an eye-opener for me because Haanel shares the secret to gaining confidence in tour line 18:
The conscious mind ought to be on duty during every waking hour. When the
“watchman” is “off guard,” or when its calm judgment is suspended, under a
variety of circumstances, then the subconscious mind is unguarded and left open to
suggestion from all sources. During the wild excitement of panic, or during the
height of anger, or the impulses of the irresponsible mob, or at any other time of
unrestrained passion, the conditions are most dangerous. The subconscious mind is
then open to the suggestion of fear, hatred, selfishness, greed, self-depreciation
and other negative forces, derived from surrounding persons or circumstances. The
result is usually unwholesome in the extreme, with effects that may endure to
distress it for a long time. Hence, the great importance of guarding the
subconscious mind from false impressions.
It was a huge surprise to me that I could actually stop false thoughts from being accepted by my unconscious mind, that I actually had control over what I thought and in turn what I felt and my actions. this was a real mind-blowing concept for me after struggling for 40 years with negative thoughts about myself.
I can remember very mean things said to me by kids in Junior High School that would still have an effect on me when I was having a bad day that would cause me to want to just hide. But now that I have this newfound power I can stand and defend myself and if you apply these same tools you can adopt that same power in your life.
Inclosing consider adding these 3 things to your daily routine.
- Before you start your day go somwhere where you can be alone and sit in silence for 15 minutes. Observe the thoughts that come to your mind.
- Realize you have the power to accept those negative thoughts as real or eliminate them and shift your focus to thoughts that inspire you.
- Show compassion for others who may be dealing with their own negative thoughts, beliefs and actions.
- Create a vision of what you want your life to be like in the present tense feeel what that is like using all 5 senses. The more intense the feelings the more you will draw thoose things to you.
I look forward to sharing more in the weeks to come. Consider getting on the list for the Master Key Experience 2022 class.
Mike G Stewart
October 10, 2021
by Mike Stewart
In order to create lasting change, you must work from the inside out.
Creating lasting change means you must become aware of what you think, what you believe, what you feel, and your actions based on those feelings to bring about a different outcome.
The week 1 Master Key Lesson explains it this way.
- There is a world within – a world of thought and feeling and power; of light and life
and beauty and, although invisible, its forces aremighty.
- The world within is governed by mind. When we discover this world we shall find the
solution for every problem, the cause for every effect; and since the world within is
subject to our control, all laws of power and possession are also within our control.
- The world without is a reflection of the world within. What appears without is whathas been found within. In the world within may be found infinite Wisdom, infinite Power,infinite Supply of all that is necessary, waiting for unfoldment, development andexpression. If we recognize these potentialities in the world within they will take form inthe worldwithout.
I would get so excited at first that I had finally found the answer I was looking for with a list of actions I can take but because those new actions never got to the root I only experienced temporary relief but if I was having a stressful day those new ways became too uncomfortable and my old way of thinking and acting would kick in and I’d go back to doing what is comfortable even though I didn’t like the results it produced.
At first, I thought it was just me, that I just wasn’t good enough, I need more willpower but I soon learned it is every human being that follows the same pattern. The Master keys gave me the power to break that pattern and get to the root of the problem, my thoughts.
If you are feeling stuck in a destructive cycle of thinking, believing, and acting you are not alone, without the proper tools you will continue to be stuck until you make the decision to learn and practice going deep into yourself. When you become curious about your feelings, good or bad you can process them in a healthy way which will bring about the lasting changes your heart has longed for.
It brings tears to my eyes when I think back at how many years I suffered trying to change failing feeling an overwhelming sense of guilt and shame and now discover that I had the power with myself to change I was just never given the tools to access that power.
I can remember many Monday nights, I would get nervous while preparing for a speech at our Tuesday morning Toastmaster meeting, I would get bombarded with negative thoughts that my speech would fall on deaf ears, I would forget the key points and that made me very so nervous I would not sleep very well that night.
After feeling this way a couple of times I realized I never really dealt with the root of why I was so nervous. The only way I overcame my nervousness was to ask myself why I was so nervous and I learned to shift my thoughts from thinking about failing and reminded myself the audience does not know what I am speaking about.
I also learned to view my speech as a gift I was giving to my audience and this totally changed the way I prepared for future speeches and after each talk, I received raving reviews.
This is my 6th time going through the Master Key Experience course and I am so excited to share this experience with the hope to inspire you to take this course in the future. There is no other course that has given me the power to make lasting change in my life and I am the person I am today by doing inner work.
I will be sharing my experience each week and I am open to speaking with anyone who would like to develop these skills and create lasting change in their life. You can contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org
September 26, 2021
by Mike Stewart
Did you know that success is in an inside job, that you were born with it?
I was always taught that success was something I would need to work hard for, that it was tied to how much money you make, whether I owned a home or not, and was based on what other people thought of me. I lived my life for 35 years always comparing my life to other men my age and It left me feeling defeated and empty.
In 2004 I became so overwhelmed with work and the different chores at home like maintaining the weeds in our backyard. I remember asking myself if this is what it means to be a homeowner I don’t want to own a home anymore. I raised the idea of selling our home with my wife and she wasn’t excited at first but as we began to examine how much our neighborhood changed in the past 13 years and we realized how overcrowed it had become and we made plans to sell our home.
We sold our home in 3 months, paid off all of our debts, banked the remaining money for our next home, and began to pray for where God wanted us to move. Being debt-free felt so wonderful, it was like a huge weight had been lifted off our shoulders. But then again I started comparing myself to other men my age and felt like a failure next to them.
In 2015 I was taking a course called The Master Key Experience and I learned a new definition of success, I learned that success is determined by how I am living my life every day. If I live my life with passion and I’m working towards a worthwhile goal I am a success. One of the homework assignments week1 is to write a DMP (Definite Major Purpose), this is a document that is a written visual description of what your future life will look like with feelings and enthusiasm.
Earl Nightingale’s definition of success.“Success is really nothing more than the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. This means that any person who knows what they are doing and where they are going is a success. Any person with a goal towards which they are working is a successful person.”
Five things I do daily to maintain a successful attitude.
- I say out loud 5 things I am grateful for.
- I sit with my eyes closed deep breathe for 5 to 10 minutes. It calms my body and my mind. when my thoughts wander I go back to focusing on my breath, (You may know this as meditation).
- I ask myself and God how can I be of service to someone today and make a positive difference in their life.
- I read my DMP with feeling and visualize how it will feel when it is a reality.
- I remind myself that I am a walking breathing miracle and there is a power, God, source, universe that is a part of me that is rooting for me. ( It is the same source that keeps your heart beating, your blood flowing, your cells healing, and your brain functioning)
When I make time to include these 5 things in my morning routine I end each day knowing I was a success because I followed my heart.
I started by adding one new thing to my routine each week and as I continued to practice this it soon became a time I looked forward to and felt renewed and refreshed as I started my day.
If you are feeling like a failure or overwhelmed with life please reach out to me I would be happy to support you in achieving your best life. You can contact me at Meet with Mike
September 13, 2021
by Mike Stewart
Are you having trouble discussing today’s social issues with your neighbors or friend without being called names or a conspiracy theorist? When we are united we tend to listen more objectively.
Do you have strong opinions about today’s social issues? Do you research what you hear from the news media or do you just take it for gospel and share but people are not receptive to hearing what you have to say?
I have had the same experience just this week when I made an innocent comment on our neighborhood community platform about mask and vaccine mandates. I was blown away by the unwillingness and downright refusal of the people commenting to even be curious as to why I believed the way I do.
The people who contributed to the conversation were either wanting to force everyone to take the vaccine and wear a mask or just choose to stay home and lose all of their privileges to shop or travel outside California. Most of the contributors were not willing to discuss any of the topics without judgment or name-calling.
I was upset and just wanted to leave the conversation until I realized I was doing the same thing.
I was taking their comments personally and not taking into consideration that each person was experiencing fear about the unvaccinated and how and the mask mandates would affect our community based on the sources they follow on social media and the news they watch.
When I realized where they were coming from I have a newfound compassion for them because all of their decisions were based on fear not on science or facts. I discovered something when I entered the words Masks don’t stop the spread of Covid-19 the majority of articles displayed were aligned with how I worded the question. My experiment proved I could find proof for both sides of the argument. Many people who had social media channels on Facebook, Youtube, and Twitter were shut down because it was considered a danger to the public.
I am happy to say there are some people who are still participating in the conversation and doing so with understanding and respect. A great example is in this post at https://www.americaagainstcovid.com/
I encourage you the next time you have a conversation in person, on social media, or on your neighborhood forum please take into consideration that people are afraid before you post. I know when I am afraid or feel like my beliefs and values are being challenged my first response is to lash out but I know that does not serve or bring value to anyone. I found it is better to agree to disagree on this topic and choose to part as friends.
The answer is Unity.
Just consider that there may be people or factions whose only purpose is to divide our community and its people. we may still disagree on some issues but we can agree to be respectful of each other’s opinions.
United we stand divided we fall
“We have a war on women, race wars. Income wars, age wars, religious wars, anything you can imagine. A house divided against itself cannot stand it. And it’s going to be up to us, to people, to begin the focus on the positive things, on the things that we have in common and stop listening to those who are stoking the fires of division.” ~ Benjamin Carson
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September 5, 2021
by Mike Stewart
I have discovered 5 ways to transform my family life by getting present to who I want to be, the unique gifts I have, and by sharing them with the people in my life can impact their lives and in turn the lives of their children.
Have you ever come to a place in your life where you began to question how you got to be where you are right now? Ask yourself how did I get here?
There was a song that was written years ago by the Talking Heads called Once in a Lifetime. I remember hearing this song on the radio over and over again but the words never really sank in until I was about 45 years old.
I recall hearing the words from verse 1 and as I began to ask myself the questions below in verse 1 I felt a sadness come over me and I feel those same feelings now as I am writing this, feelings of not realizing how I have come to this point in my life, that many of the decisions I made over the past 20 years were based on some else’s values.
It is like being on a car trip to and along the way there are sights and beautiful scenery and I arrived at our destination but I was asleep the whole way and missed everything. I missed all of the beautiful scenery and conversations between all of the passengers, and when we reach our destination I am told of all the amazing sites I missed along the way.
I discovered the same with my life, I found myself at a destination I did not plan, a life I did not design but a life that was designed for me which causes me to ask the questions in verse 2 and I don’t like the way it makes me feel. As I try to make sense of it all I become angry, I feel cheated! I feel robbed of not being able to enjoy all the pleasures I missed along the way!
And you may find yourself living in a shotgun shack
And you may find yourself in another part of the world
And you may find yourself behind the wheel of a large automobile
And you may find yourself in a beautiful house, with a beautiful wife
And you may ask yourself, “Well, how did I get here?”
And you may ask yourself, “How do I work this?”
And you may ask yourself, “Where is that large automobile?”
And you may tell yourself, “This is not my beautiful house”
And you may tell yourself, “This is not my beautiful wife”
You can listen to the entire song at Once in a Lifetime
Through an amazing course called the Master Key Experience, I learned 5 ways that inspired me to do the inner work which transformed myself and my family life and how I relate to other people.
- I learned that I was responsible for my happiness and no one else. It is not my wife, my son, or my friend’s job to make me happy. I am It is 100% responsible for my happiness. Ponder that thought for a moment and think about how many times you have blamed your spouse, your kids, your boss, and your neighbors for your unhappiness. When I realized this I decided to clean up my mess, in other words, I went to each person I treated poorly for my troubled life and asked them to forgive me. I did it without expecting a response from them because I did it for my benefit and when I did it was as if I had been dragging several balls and chains around for years which I now realized why I felt so tired at the end of the day. I felt like I just lost a thousand pounds of emotional baggage and I felt light as a feather.
- I learned to make time for myself. I made a decision to set aside personal time for me, time to reflect on where I am, ask myself if I am happy where I am in that area, and if I am not I will commit to learning how I can change it to be the way I want it to be.
- I learned how my mind worked, how my thoughts affected my feelings, how my feelings determined my actions and that my actions created the results I currently have.
- I learned that the 5 people I hang out with the most will either inspire you to take action towards creating the ideal life you want and the legacy you will leave when you reach your final resting place. This really impacted me when I went to find out if my father was still alive in 2008. I first google his name and found no results, I contacted the county clerk located in Carson City, NV, and I found out that he died in 2002. I decided to google my mom and my search came up empty. Knowing that both of my parents didn’t leave an impact on humanity before they died inspired me to find new and creative ways that I can help people in practical ways. I made it my intention to make every conversation a life-changing, I made a decision that my life will not end up the same way as my parents. I set aside some time to imagine what the memorial of my death would look like, who would be there, and what the conversation would be amongst the attendees. I visualized a long line of people waiting their turn to share the impact I had on their lives and the way I made them feel after having interacted with me. Thousands of people were excited for their turn to come to the microphone to share their testimony about me. It moves me to tears when I stop to think about it.
- I learned the power to change my life and the answers to life’s most important questions were given to each person at the time of their birth by their creator but we were just never taught how to access them. I spent years trying to fix myself but due to my limited access to the tools and resources available I stumbled and struggled for 45 years.
As you incorporate these 5 ways into your daily activities you will not only transform your family life but it will change the way you interact with every person you meet.
I know thousands of people just like you and me who have taken the Master Key Experience course and transformed their life like Laura Hitt. You can read her experience at Living To Your Own Beat
If you would like to learn the science behind each of the 5 ways I listed above to create the life you want the Master Key Experience enrollment is starting on September 8th, 2021. I would love to have a conversation with you regarding the upcoming course and answer any questions you may have about attending. you can set up an appointment with me at Meet With Mike. What makes this course different is that your spot in the course has already been paid for by last year’s attendees through a pay it forward scholarship. Set up a time and get the tools you need NOW!
August 29, 2021
by Mike Stewart
Victims of the Covid-19 vaccine are not being heard or acknowledged by the government, big pharma, or the mainstream media.
I know this is not my usual topic but I have to vent because I have not heard any reports about the adverse effects of the Covid-19 vaccine only that it is safe and effective against the virus.
Every media outlet from the alphabet, cable and written news everyone is touting “Just get the Shot stop being selfish”. Why is no one investigating the thousands of reports listed below on this website?
What happened to investigative reporting? It has been silenced by the owners of the news outlets.
What happened to giving people the opportunity to learn about the risks and benefits of taking medication and encouraging them to educate themselves?
Why are people’s stories being suppressed by Facebook, Youtube, Twitter, and Instagram? It is because the people who control those media outlets have sponsors that pay for them to exist who don’t want that information out because it doesn’t fund their interests, in other words, follow the money.
Why will no one report the stories of those who are suffering at the hand of big pharma? how come the vaccine manufacturers apologize or acknowledge them?
They don’t acknowledge them because it would stop the flow of money, and cause people to take a second look before putting a drug that is still in clinical trials into their bodies.
Who will speak for those that won’t be heard? It is time to stop the lies and let the people know the truth about the virus, the vaccine, and the give share the reasons for censoring anyone who disagrees with them.
It is time for all people in every state, county, and city to come together and say NO MORE LIES!
I have been pondering the best way to share this and have been flooded with a barrage of emotions this week and grieving for the struggles I hear people going through from the loss of loved ones to the permanent heaths issues my friend has been dealing with.
This week a friend I know who is a nurse shared her story on social media about how the quality of her life and her health has declined since she had been vaccinated. Things like not being able to stand for a very long time making dinner because her legs get tingly and fatigued. She has made several requests for answers from Pfizer but has yet to receive any acknowledgment.
I also watched a video of a lady named Brit on Red Voice Media who had been vaccinated and 7 months later she was admitted to the hospital because she could not stop vomiting. While she was hospitalized for underwent numerous tests and saw a total of 17 doctors during her three different stays. She was diagnosed with Giambere. Pericarditis, Pots syndrome, Gastroparesis, Meningitis, all as a result of the Moderna vaccines. She tried to share her experience on Instagram and she was belittled, ridiculed, and threatened.
The hospital brought security into her room to threaten her to stop posting. She was confused, in pain, and hurting and it wasn’t until the fifth day of her third stay that a doctor was willing to admit that her symptoms were from the Moderna vaccine. After being treated for the Giambere she was allowed to go home and she decided to turn to an integrative medicine doctor in Tampa, FL. Her video posts on Instagram blacked out.
Victims of the Covid-19 vaccine are not heard
Brit is one of many victims of the Covid-19 vaccine and although they have attempted to contact the vaccine manufacturers their requests for answers have fallen on deaf ears. You can watch Btrit’s story here
Below is a link to a 3-minute video of some of the victims share their stories. They are not looking for any compensation but to be heard and their stories shared to help people who are considering the vaccine realize what the risks are.
The reason I am so passionate about this topic is that when I was 20 years old I struggled with severe allergies and no matter what medication or treatment my doctor prescribed nothing helped. 25 years later I learned that it was the processed foods and fast food I was eating that were causing the majority of my symptoms. I know that I am healthy today because I chose to take control of my health and not leave it in the hands of doctors that only prescribed medicine relieve my symptoms but never got to the root cause of my allergies. You have to be the researcher, you have to be the one who does the work of reading the nutrition labels, research the internet for natural remedies and surround yourself with like-minded people who have helped themselves recover from their illness and conditions.
I would love to have a conversation on this topic, you can contact me in three ways, at my website at http://mentalktoyourwoman.com my calendar link at Meet with Mike or the contact form on the home page.
August 22, 2021
by Mike Stewart
Are you wondering how you can bring back that loving feeling into your marriage?
Do you remember what it was like when you and your partner would spend time cuddle on the couch or while lying in bed?
Do you remember when the touch of your partner made you lean into their shoulder and just nuzzle into their arms?
I can remember when my wife and I were dating and after we were married I would coming home after a long day of work and no matter how bad of a day I had and my wife would come up give me a hug and hold me in her arms and a calm peaceful feeling would come over me and I knew everything was going to be ok because I felt loved, accepted and safe. Do you remember times like that?
The only other time I remember feeling that way was when I was a child about 8 years old and as a family, we would watch TV in the evening and I loved to crawl up on my Mom’s lap and cuddle her arms, and those feelings of acceptance, safety, and unconditional love would flood over me.
Do you remember feeling that way in your partner’s arms when you were dating or when you were first married? Do you remember being so in love that your heart ached when you were apart and you talked on the phone for hours? Where did those days go? Where did those feelings go?
My mind became focused on this topic last Wednesday while I was in the middle of my stretching and exercise routine. The thought hit me hard that there are so many people struggling to make sense of everything from the news media constantly sharing how bad things are with the Covid-19 Delta Variant on the rise and all the stuff that is going on in Afghanistan, and you can also add the pressure being placed on parents to vaccinate their children, supervisors and small business owners requiring their employees to vaccinated or they have to find another job. Adding all that to a mom and dad trying to raise their children to be the best human beings they can be and training them to grow up exploring the possibilities of being the next Nobel Prize Winner, champion athlete, or the next best-selling author. The average American home has changed so much in the past year and the amount of stress seems to only be increasing.
How are we able to combat all of these things and still make time to be together as a couple to strengthen, pray together, and encourage one another to hope for a better tomorrow and be there to comfort our children when they are looking for that assurance that no matter what happens they are accepted and unconditionally loved.
I began to weep for the marriages going through all the things I listed above and asked “how can I help these families bring back that loving feeling and give them hope to weather the current storm they are facing?’ Then it hit me, I need to empower them with tools that not only bring back that loving feeling that they once felt for one another but also help them realize they have the power to create their life exactly as they want it to be and have an environment that saturates the entire family with that love.
Do you remember the song by Hall and Oats titled You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling? If not you can listen to it here You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling
This song explains exactly how the relationship between a couple begins to break down, the second verse reads.
There’s no welcome look in your eyes
When I reach for you
And girl you’re starting to
Criticize little things I do
Ooh, it makes me just feel like cryin’ (baby)
‘Cause baby something beautiful’s dyin’.
When you start to criticize little things I do is the exact same thing I found myself doing that began to erode my connection to my wife Valerie. I began to look for the things that were wrong instead of the things that were right, instead of focusing on the things I loved about her I could only see the things I didn’t like about her. The turning point in our relationship came as a result of the Master Key Experience course I attended in 2015. It was through that course I began to realize I was the person that was creating all of my unhappiness and because I did not know how to process my thoughts and feelings in a healthy way I did what any normal person in that state would do deflect the blame on their partner.
Through the daily exercises, I began to notice how many times a day I had a negative thought about everyone I encountered that day. If I was running late for an appointment is was the person driving in the car in front of me that was causing me to be late while disregarding the fact that I could have left my house sooner. As continued to practice monitoring my thoughts I could see that negativity was running my thoughts feelings and actions and it had to stop now by using what is called the Law Of Substitution. The law of substitution is one of the seven laws of the mind that we are encouraged to apply to our daily lives in order to get the results we want in every area of our life.
Do you want to get back that loving feeling in your marriage? If so please consider joining The Master Key Experience course this September. you can find more about it at the following link. If you would like to ask me any questions regarding what I have written in this post or have a conversation regarding the Master Key Experience course you can contact me through my website http://mentalktoyourwoman.com or my Facebook Page. MikeStewartCoaching
I told you early how you could get a copy of the Seven Day Mental Diet and you can request a copy from my website http://familyhealthbydesign.org
I look forward to being a source of hope and empowerment to those individuals who would like to rebuild their relationship with their partner and get back that loving feeling.