Did you know that success is in an inside job, that you were born with it?
I was always taught that success was something I would need to work hard for, that it was tied to how much money you make, whether I owned a home or not, and was based on what other people thought of me. I lived my life for 35 years always comparing my life to other men my age and It left me feeling defeated and empty.
In 2004 I became so overwhelmed with work and the different chores at home like maintaining the weeds in our backyard. I remember asking myself if this is what it means to be a homeowner I don’t want to own a home anymore. I raised the idea of selling our home with my wife and she wasn’t excited at first but as we began to examine how much our neighborhood changed in the past 13 years and we realized how overcrowed it had become and we made plans to sell our home.
We sold our home in 3 months, paid off all of our debts, banked the remaining money for our next home, and began to pray for where God wanted us to move. Being debt-free felt so wonderful, it was like a huge weight had been lifted off our shoulders. But then again I started comparing myself to other men my age and felt like a failure next to them.
In 2015 I was taking a course called The Master Key Experience and I learned a new definition of success, I learned that success is determined by how I am living my life every day. If I live my life with passion and I’m working towards a worthwhile goal I am a success. One of the homework assignments week1 is to write a DMP (Definite Major Purpose), this is a document that is a written visual description of what your future life will look like with feelings and enthusiasm.
Earl Nightingale’s definition of success.“Success is really nothing more than the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. This means that any person who knows what they are doing and where they are going is a success. Any person with a goal towards which they are working is a successful person.”
Five things I do daily to maintain a successful attitude.
- I say out loud 5 things I am grateful for.
- I sit with my eyes closed deep breathe for 5 to 10 minutes. It calms my body and my mind. when my thoughts wander I go back to focusing on my breath, (You may know this as meditation).
- I ask myself and God how can I be of service to someone today and make a positive difference in their life.
- I read my DMP with feeling and visualize how it will feel when it is a reality.
- I remind myself that I am a walking breathing miracle and there is a power, God, source, universe that is a part of me that is rooting for me. ( It is the same source that keeps your heart beating, your blood flowing, your cells healing, and your brain functioning)
When I make time to include these 5 things in my morning routine I end each day knowing I was a success because I followed my heart.
I started by adding one new thing to my routine each week and as I continued to practice this it soon became a time I looked forward to and felt renewed and refreshed as I started my day.
If you are feeling like a failure or overwhelmed with life please reach out to me I would be happy to support you in achieving your best life. You can contact me at Meet with Mike